I'm not going to look myself, but does JohnTitor17 begin every comment with that same first paragraph, just with the dates changed? Because that could actually be a good bit.

Sorry for the levity when the main topic here is....that. It's one of those things where my reaction is that there's nothing to say here except just look at it.

I fooled you guys, I wasn't actually confident at all.

Not opening the article, but I'm pretty confident this is a real quote that was actually said and not a reference to something I'm not familiar with.

It's still much worse than what you've written here! You used the word "while" when the word "because" is much more accurate.

I thought your post said compress with them and I was like what the hell does that even mean.

I remember thinking the Smooth Criminal cover wasn't bad, but I was never interested in digging deeper on the assumption that a band whose one hit song is a cover that is worse than the original is probably not writing great music.

Am I allowed to also be nude when I squeeze through?

I'm thinking more seriously about this and I don't think there's a way to do this that doesn't just end up with performative forced apologies. Obviously bad views and behaviors can be changed and worked on, but very often coming to terms with things is a hard and long process, and asking someone to speed it up can actually counteract positive progress by creating resentment.

I think a better option than requiring self-crit is just having a comm for "help me work on this shit" so that it can be more voluntary, but still easy for everyone else to block. Maybe temp bans could be for everywhere except there, but with no obligation to use it, and bad-faith use would extend the ban length (or other options). Obviously though it would require a lot of moderation work though to not devolve into a bunch of jackasses reinforcing their own shitty beliefs. Very easy for me to volunteer this great idea that would be a lot of work to implement and maintain and also I'm not qualified to do that work.

At some point I came to terms with the realization that when I ask friends or family for help, or even talk with a counselor, I stubbornly fight with every suggestion I'm given, and then in the coming days the words start to sink in and I consider the ideas more seriously and usually realize my thinking was bad. I have a lot of love for the people in my life who accept this and still try to help me. The process is who I am and it works for me, but it makes it harder to inquire about anything potentially inflammatory, because I don't want people to see the stubbornness if I'm defending a repugnant idea, even if I really need to hear the arguments against my thinking. And if I still believe it, it's really hard to know if my rationale is actually repugnant or not without another voice.

Like I have a couple recurring thoughts that I'd like to ask about and have challenged, find out if they're well-founded or if they're bigoted, reflect and fix if they are, but if they are problematic and do need to be corrected, I know that I'll have at least a day where I'm still trying to defend them anyway. The time spent afterwards ruminating on a discussion like that would allow me to fix the issue. But, fragile ego and everything, if this is a public discussion and I get called out on being an asshole/bigot, the result is I ruminate more on my own identity and character. When I start thinking deeply on "am I a bad person?", I get completely sidetracked from the thoughts I need to be having to correct the original belief I still need to get sorted out. I'm not pretending that's a healthy way of thinking or that I shouldn't fix it, just saying that I've been trying to fix it for a long while now and still am not there.

Basically, having a space where I can ask "is this belief repugnant?" and a day or two where I'm allowed try to justify my reasoning would do wonders for identifying and correcting problematic thoughts I still have, but it requires the listeners to assume good faith (an absurdly gargantuan ask when talking about randos on the internet spouting offensive nonsense), and requires a lot of effort from moderation on top of that.

I definitely have blind spots and would benefit from guidance on how to be better.

I'm ashamed of this, but I'll share: I caught a temp ban from ml for misogyny a few months ago. I had already been in a place of bad self-loathing for a while and when I got the ban I basically checked out from online posting everywhere for a month or two. I PMed the user an apology afterwards. Thread was here.

I didn't even realize it was problematic until I logged in the next day and saw the ban. In my mind I use "girl" in colloquial speech with friends, so if I'm joking around with someone I think of it as a similar situation. I normally say "dude" but I know "dude" can be considered male-coded so I've been trying to work on that when a stranger has female pronouns displayed. In this case it really wasn't better. When I re-read it, if she didn't believe I was joking around it would come across as misogynistic, the joke was one-sided. Keep trying to edit this to make it sound less bad and rationalize my way out, but I fucked up.

Open up pornhub, click a video. Starts to play.

I'm Kamala Harris and I approve this message.

I miss skippable ads more and more every election.

Harris's

Pretty cool how our news as a whole has decided that Biden is already out of office and we have no need for reminders that he ever existed. He's not doing anything right now and we don't need to pretend that he should be expected to or mention it in any way.

When I read the quote typed up above it's clear as day that what she's saying here is objectionable, but when I listen to her say those words in her voice, I've lost track of the plot before she's done. Given that the OP is correct that Kamala was not supposed to say this, I have to wonder if she lost track near the same point I did.

edit: Rewatching and changed my mind, the point where I get thrown off is when she awkwardly tacks on "or a result of many things including" before finishing the sentence, which is likely just realizing midway through that she wants to tone down crediting the US for what's happening there. The actual quote is more tempered than what OP has transcribed, she caught where it was going to go right before she finished.

Initially, we’d hoped to publish our endorsement on June 27, 2024, in the hours after Joe Biden’s first televised debate against Donald Trump. Then, we’d hoped to publish it a few days later, following Biden’s highly anticipated July 5 interview with George Stephanopoulos.

Now, on Oct. 2, 2024, we are finally...

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I swear I'm not making this up like a month ago my physical therapist asked me about the new cologne I'm wearing. I told him I didn't use any and he kind of persisted he was like no, it smells really good and I'm like I dunno dude. "Are you sure?" "Yes, I'm sure I'm not wearing cologne." I don't have a sense of smell since catching covid in 2020 so I had no clue. Then he was like "oh, I forgot I put a scented candle down over here, I didn't think it would be so strong when it's not lit". He clearly felt really awkward and I didn't want to laugh too much to make him feel worse but what the hell dude.

It is reported for the first time that federal prosecutors are looking into the mayor's dealings with five countries besides Turkey. The other countries are Israel, China, Qatar, South Korea and Uzbekistan.

Undoubtedly a dumb question, but what are these countries getting in exchange? I get that Israel is entrenched in our politics and has interest in maintaining that, but even for them there's got to be a reason they wouldn't just do this through AIPAC like every US politician.

Weepinbell

Don't forget dogbag!

Not hornyposting at all when I say I need to see the american pikachu-redesign tiger with huge breasts and all the other design proposals from the american staff. Those sketches are historical artifacts and someone needs to dig them up and put them in a museum.

I think most dogs are capable of learning to suppress that if a malicious owner is diligently training them towards that from a young enough age. But somehow I think I'm not going to be interested in distributing blame for how this attack dog is acting until I'm no longer in the same room as him.

It's the username created for the specific purpose of creating this post that gets me here. You gotta respect this person that named themselves "roommateirrational" for seeking sincere opinions on whether their roommate is being hysterical.