greencactus 21h ago • 100%
Aha, perfect. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with me! I'll reflect how/when I'll go and see it then.
greencactus 1d ago • 0%
Actually, I wanted to go and see the movie. What didnt inspire you about it? Honestly just asking for your review :)
greencactus 5d ago • 100%
Ah yes - Scout Equites, the true saviors of the Empire
greencactus 6d ago • 100%
Ich verstehe den Punkt absolut. Meine Aussage ist aber, dass ich eben mehr als "nur" 500 Euro mehr im Monat bekomme, weil damit auch enorme Ungleichheit gegenüber anderen Studis einhergeht. Ich muss, das Geld nicht zurückzahlen, und erhalte zum Teil mehr Geld als arbeitende Menschen, ohne dabei einen signifikanten Beitrag an Gütern oder Dienstleistungen zu produzieren. Im Endeffekt zahlt die Gesellschaft gerade für mich enorm drauf - in Form vom Stipendium, Wohnheim, staatliche Uni, ÖPNV-Ticket, Familien-GKV,...
Es ist mir mit diesem Post einfach sehr wichtig, einen Einblick reinzugeben, wie einfach privilegierte Machtgefälle entstehen können. Nach dem Motto: wer hat, dem wird gegeben; wer nicht hat, der hat halt Pech und muss schauen, wie man über die Runden kommt (looking at you, 800€ BAföG).
Obwohl der Aspekt der Elitenförderung nachvollziehbar ist, finde ich, dass sobald ich mehr im Monat verdienen kann als zwei meiner Kommilitonen (die nicht ganz Höchstsatz beziehen, von denen gibt es ja einige), für genau das selbe Studium, hat das System einen strukturellen Fehler.
greencactus 7d ago • 100%
Genauso habe ich es auch wahrgenommen. Ich war letztes Jahr auf der Sommerakademie aller Begabtenwerke - mit Abstand die meisten waren weiße Kinder von Akademikereltern. Es gab auch Gegenbeispiele, besonders die linken Förderwerke hatten gute Durchmischung - aber die Kerndynamik war meiner Meinung nach eindeutig.
greencactus 7d ago • 100%
Exakt. Es ergibt absolut keinen Sinn, weil mein Stipendium ja mit dem BAföG verknüpft ist.
greencactus 7d ago • 100%
Hm, ich stimme Dir nicht zu. Ich bin bei einem der linken Begabtenförderungswerke, welches sehr viel Wert auf Inklusion legt. Es ist trotzdem sehr krass, wie viele Akademiker*innenkinder bei uns sind. Die Korrelation Elternhaus-Noten ist sehr gut bekannt, und bei allen Förderwerken sind Noten ein gewichtiger Faktor.
Ich finde es allerdings sehr ungerecht, dass ich zum Teil mehr Geld habe als Personen, die 40-Stunden-Wochen arbeiten. Das Problem sind nicht zwangsläufig die Stipendien an sich, sondern eher die Verteilung von Geld. Die Stipendien sind aber Teil des Probleme, weil wir aufgrund von großem politischen Willen existieren, eine wie auch immer geartete "Elite" ranzuziehen. Das Wohngeld ist auch Ausdruck des Problems.
Liebes Fediverse, nachdem ich gestern in der weiten Welt des Internets unterwegs war, bin ich auf das Thema Wohngeld gestoßen und wollte nochmal kurz mit Euch teilen, wie ungleich das System eigentlich ist. Die meisten, die mit Bafög studieren, wissen: BAföG und Wohngeld vertragen sich nicht. In BAföG ist ein Zuschuss zum Wohnen bereits erhalten. So weit, so gut. Ich beziehe ein Studiumsstipendium. Die Stipendiumsberechnung ist immer BAföG-Anspruch +300 Euro. In meinem Fall beziehe ich Bafög-Höchstsatz, also 812 Euro, plus 300 Euro = 1112 Euro im Monat. Was jedoch die meisten nicht wissen: Wohngeld kann man auch beziehen, wenn man ein Stipendium erhält. In fact, wird das Stipendiumseinkommen nur [zur Hälfte angerechnet](https://www.wohngeld.org/wohngeldgesetz-wogg/paragraph14/) (siehe Punkt 27). Das heißt auf mich, dass für mein Wohngeldanspruch ich effektiv 550 Euro im Monat beziehe. Wenn man das in einen Wohngeldrechner eingibt (Raum Leipzig), kommt man effektiv bei ~200-220 Euro im Monat Wohngeld raus - **höher, als meine Miete ist (205€), Wohnhein.** Ich erhalte also effektiv 500€ mehr als meine Kommilitonen, die "nur" BAföG beziehen. Alles als Darlehen, ohne Rückzahlung. Wenn man dann noch Kindergeld dazuzählt, kann ich mir ein sehr gutes Leben im Studium gönnen. Alles nur, weil ich in der Stipendiums-Lotterie ein gutes Los gezogen habe. Nebenbei arbeiten mache ich aus Spaß, weil ich Lust darauf habe. Gerade hocke ich in Frankreich für Erasmus, wobei mein Inlandsstipendium weiter läuft. Bildungsgerechtigkeit geht anders.
greencactus 1w ago • 100%
Mh, warum? Ich habe nicht gefunden, warum er problematisch ist
greencactus 2w ago • 100%
Okay, this thread escalated quickly
greencactus 2w ago • 100%
"But what has PugJesus done for us except high-quality memes, shitposting, historical education and keeping a whole community afloat?"
greencactus 2w ago • 100%
Mein erster Gedanke 'was darf Satire noch'
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
Yep, actually I am as well. War crimes can be committed by both sides.
greencactus 3w ago • 95%
Well, it is obviously a special military operation to denazify and demilitarise the terrorist militia of other country, because it threatens peace and security. /s
Seriously, isn't this like called a war declaration or something? If you bomb another country and move in troops and kill civilians?
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
Hm, der ewige Kampf gegen Microsoft also. Aber nice, dass es gut, wenn nicht sogar besser läuft!
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
Klingt toll! Hoffentlich wird es auch von den Leuten akzeptiert :)
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
I sincerely appreciate your response, thank you! I think it matters a lot to me that I'm not alone with this and that it will change (I'm sure it will also change for me, goddammit).
For me it definitely is an open question of integration vs. letting other people know I'm autistic. Rn only a selected number of people know, but it definitely is an unsolved problem for me if I want to be more open with this part of my identity. In the end it is a bit like what you said, that then people can also understand one better and won't wonder 'why is this guy behaving weirdly?'
Listening is definitely a great skill as well - I want to become a psychotherapist, so that will kinda become my source of income :) Always good to cultivate this skill though!
Actually now that I think of it, maybe I've neglected it a bit. Listening for me is something I claim to be able to do well, and something where I can use the autistic part of my identity well. And also that brings me to a thought. We all like and love people who can listen well and who will be there for you. I know that a few years ago, I read Carnegie's "How to make friends and influence people" (honestly, how I didnt realize back then already that I was autistic is beyond me), but the main message of the book is that people like other people who listen. And listening to other people actually made me friends with a lot of other people. Being focused and attentive and going deep into a subject is an area I can perfectly integrate my hyper fixation and care for details, while also making the other person feel appreciated. Of course, there needs to be a fine line, but now that I think of it - I don't feel connected going to a large party, I feel connected sitting next to a friend and listening him talking about his breakup. That's what gives me a feeling of being part of the party, because that's a party I choose and a party I can be damn good at.
In the last few years however it feels that I've neglected this a bit; it feels to me that I don't really listen how I did earlier. I'm gonna reflect on why that's the case, and maybe I'll reread Carnegie. But I have the feeling that maybe, just maybe, this is connected to my feeling of feeling left out. Maybe I don't only feel left out from the others, but also left out from myself, because I no longer practice the craft and art of listening like I did earlier.
I'll need to reflect upon it, a lot. But thank you for the input! I sincerely appreciate it. Maybe I've written a lot of dumb stuff down, but at least I've a new thought to go with, and that's already worth a lot. Thank you!
greencactus 3w ago • 94%
Not OP, aber Bedrohungen im digitalen Raum (z. B. Desinformations-Kampagnen, Norstream 2,...)
Zur Klarheit: ich bin sehr klar gegen eine Wehrpflicht (bin selbst Kriegsdienstverweigerer). Ja, es gibt Bedrohungslagen, aber man löst sie nicht durch ein paar neue Bataillone und Handgranaten, sondern z. B. durch Demokratieförderung. Junge Männer in den Schützengraben zu werfen trägt dazu entscheidend 0 bei.
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
Absolut, und irgendwie auch nachvollziehbar :)
greencactus 3w ago • 100%
Stimmt, auch ein guter Punkt. Es erklärt natürlich nicht alles, aber ist definitiv ein wesentlicher Faktor - danke Dir für den Denkanstoß!
I'm not sure if anyone can relate to this, but I still wanted to get "my feelings out", so to speak. I'm a psychology student from Germany who's in a Erasmus+ year (basically an exchange year during university) in France. I think the topic of loneliness has accompanied me my whole life in one form of another, but right now I think it strikes extra hard. Generally speaking, I think I'm pretty socially competent - I have friends, a girlfriend, I'm member of a Nightline back in Germany. I know a good amount of people from uni, in Germany and France, and can have a nice smalltalk with them. However, I don't feel included in any specific group, here or back in Germany. I am not outright rejected, people are still nice when I e.g. sit down with them for a meal. I went to a bar with some fellow exchange students, or talked with them during lunch. But these activities drain a lot of energy from me, and I can't go to the nice places where people bond as a group. I can't go to parties or concerts, having lunch with other people already drains my social battery for the day. I hear them telling how they will go on a trip or a party, how they went to the city and had a nice time. Last time I was in the city I nearly had a meltdown when I got home. It just feels really lonely, as if all the people around me have fun as a group and I stand at the edge of the party, watching them as they enjoy themselves. I could walk up to them and have a drink, but I still wouldn't be part of the party, no matter what I really do or try, because I wouldn't be able to get in the same "fun mood" as them. This feeling of not belonging holds on the entire day right now. However, that doesn't mean I'm not happy or I can't do fun things; I absolutely can. I love it when I can sleep out and watch a nice movie, when I have a walk next to the river and listen to my podcast. I love exploring the city (with headphones!), or watching a dog play with a ball, playing PC or writing in my diary. There are nice things in my life, which I appreciate and value. However, all these things are things I do on my own or with another person. And whenever I'm in a group, I very strongly feel that I don't really fit to the group, that they are different than me. I already thought about joining up a group here, but my language barrier makes it extremely difficult, if not impossible, to do so. And with my fellow exchange students I don't really fit in, for the reasons outlined above. Overall, I just feel very lonely here. Like a little alien watching the others have fun, while I'm on my own somewhere different. Of course I still have fun, I do great things, but I do them on my own. I feel that I'm broken or wrong for not able to enjoy group things as much as others do, that some part of me which is supposed to function correctly doesn't work.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/20077667 > Mandatory Boomer post > > Look, I enjoyed Skyrim, but I miss the days when Bethesda made RPGs
They're like dogs, but always fluffy
We must meet the threat with our valor, our blood, indeed with our very lifes, to ensure that human civilization, not insect, dominate this galaxy now and always!
Gosh, I'm so happy. Admittedly it was an amazing run - I found plate armor in the sewers and upgraded them into oblivion. Still, the feeling of happiness when I realized I arrived at the top was really nice. Especially the learning curve of the game. Every time I try, I get a bit better. A few weeks ago I died at the Dwarfen City, and now I'm good enough to come back to the top. The experience of working on your skill and getting better is just really amazing, and I love how the game is hard, but doesnt feel punishing. Overall, I'm proud of my great Warrior :)
I've rarely seen such weird coincidences on Reddi's front page as this one.
Just forgot I need to walk back out for the ultimate victory...
My partner and I just had a talk about it. Basically, she celebrated her birthday today. I was on her party, and it was fun, but I left after around 2 hours to get home and relax a bit. After I arrived, a friend of mine texted me and asked me if I wanted to go to a lake and see the sunset. I agreed, we went to the lake and went swimming in it; it was really nice. Later, after arriving at my partners, she talked with me that it hurts her that I went out with someone else on her birthday, doing a romantically coded activity. To be honest, I realize that I don't have a single clue what is coded as a romantically coded activity. For me, this was something completely okay and appropriate, because it is for me clearly a friend-thing; but my partner explained to me that the combination of going out with another person on her birthday and going to a sea, which is a secluded place, just heavily connotates it in a romantic way. I understand that what I've done here wasn't right, and that I have responsibility here. Even though I didn't want to hurt my partner, it is still my responsibility to inform myself here on romantically conmotated things you shouldn't do in a partnership. So, dear people of Lemmy, what does constitute a romantic moment? Edit: I've left out some information which seems to be important for the whole picture . I've copied it out of my comment and adding it here: *** Me and my gf got together in August of last year, so basically 8 months ago; we were friends for half a year before that. She got cheated on in her long distance relationship before. The friend who invited me to the sea I actually know for almost as long as my partner, from the beginning of Uni. She had a breakup from a three-year old relationship a few months ago, and I was there to support her. I didn't clarify before though if she was okay with me cuddling with people or not; I assumed it was with her, because it was okay in her LDR before - which was wrong of me. I overstepped the boundaries of my partner here. The friend in question kissed me at the neck while I was at hers. I talked with her about it and let her know that I wasn't okay with it, to which she reacted quite hurt. She then told me that we shouldn't be friends, but two weeks ago she collapsed at Uni and I brought her home. Now we are meeting again. While I'm writing this down, I'm actually starting to notice that there are a lot of other factors playing in why my partner is upset here. She has been cheated on in the past, which definitely leads her to feel uncomfortable about my actions, even though I obviously don't want to cheat. I broke a societally unwritten rule of not meeting people in romantically coded settings on your partners birthday. And I overstepped the boundary of my partner before by cuddling with the friend without my partners consent. ***
Hey y'all, I'm a 19 year old psychology student in college (with the goal of becoming a therapist) and have been diagnosed last summer with autism (low support needs). I think the fact that so many of my peers go to parties, drink and have fun, while it is too overstimulating for me, feels really bad. I can't go to a party without earplugs, beer tastes awful to me (and coffee as well - way too intense for my taste), as soon as there's blood in a movie I feel unconformable, and it just feels that everyone is able to do thing easily which for me are a real struggle. I'm in a relationship, and my gf seems to be able to do all these things easier than me. Asides from the fact that she also has better grades than me, I just feel resentment and sadness that people around me seem to better than me in so many aspects. Of course we should focus on our strengths, and that we shouldn't compare ourselves to others. But in the end I still feel resentment that people around me are just able to do so many more things than me, and that things considered normal in our society are a struggle, if not outright impossible, for autistic people. So I'd love some input on how y'all cope with the reality of not being able to participate in social life to the same extent as other people. Thanks!
Die gesamte Stadt steht still, die zentrale Haltestelle (Augustusplatz) wird teilweise nicht bedient - nur eine Hälfte fährt noch, und wer weiß wie stabil. Der gesamte Innenstadtring steht still. Ich habe Leipzig noch nie in einem solchen Zustand gesehen. Wie sieht es bei Euch in der Region so aus?
And then you always want to crawl into my bed and cuddle. Theo, you are adorable, but why do you ALWAYS need to get dirty before coming home 🥲
