I keep seeing men online (Reddit, Instagram, TikTok) saying how they don't know personal details about their male friends of several years. It is mostly said in a proud context, or in disbelief when a woman talks about it. I'm talking about knowing someone for years and not knowing what they do for work specifically, their relationship status/major issues, their life goals, their family situation, birthdays, and stuff like that. For context, I am a man in my 20s. I have a close friend group of around 10 people. We all know each other very well. We have a group chat, and meet at least once a week (obviously some people can't always make it). We know a lot of details about each other, so this idea of being close friends with someone and not knowing personal stuff about each other seems foreign and weird to me. Does it actually happen, or just internet hyperbole?

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Should I use a pseudonym when writing political essays?
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    If you are still somewhat young, its better to use a pseudonym. I'm not sure how "spicy" we are talking, but you might not be as much of an "extremist" when you grow up, so it's better to not have these ideas permanently linked to your name. It might even affect job prospects, no matter whether you change your ideology or not.

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  • Visual Studio Code alternatives for Linux?
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    I am aware of this one, but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I think I'll start using Kate, and contribute whatever features I'm missing if I can.

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  • While I understand the lack of proper open source alternatives for some software like AutoCAD and After Effects, it always felt weird that the best IDEs/Text Editors are made by big corporations, because you know, these are the tools programmers use. I tried vim/neovim, which I enjoy using, but I've come to prefer visual editors instead of text based. Kate looks promising, and I'm willing to contribute to it in my free time, but it just has that "amateurish" feel to it that I can't explain. Anyone aware of other alternatives?

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    What is your opinion of online moderators? Do you think of them as an ally or an adversary?
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    Exactly. I'm a mod in a few subreddits, the biggest of which is /r/Showerthoughts. People don't notice our existence unless we interact with them directly, and you rarely interact with users unless to ban them or to remove their content. So it is expected to be hated.

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    Today I learned MarcellusDrum 1y ago 100%
    TIL Steven Russell escaped from prison by using laxatives to fake AIDS, then called the prison posing as a doctor, asking for prisoners interested in an experimental treatment, and volunteered.
    https://nowiknow.com/the-man-who-walked-out-of-prison-a-few-times/

    Once out of Texas, he sent a death certificate to the prison stating he had died.

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    Lemmy vs Reddit in a nutshell
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    I'm neither American, European, Russian, nor Chinese, and have no clear vested interest in any if them. Seeing how Americans view China as the "big evil" from the outside is just mind-boggling. Most of the bad stuff you think China did, they didn't. Some of the terrible stuff they did, the US did as well. They do have a bad side that the US doesn't have, but the US does some things worse than China.

    Now its easy for the naive to just reply "whataboutism" to my comment and move on. But what I'm trying to say is that the world isn't black and white. The US isn't the "good guys", no one is. Take a look at some communities on Lemmygrad. You might change some of your views.

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  • What habits or practies have you adopted from cultures besides your own?
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    It is common in the middle east, with some leeway. Like if someone is sitting diagonal to you such that your foot isn't directly facing them, it's okay. Unless its a professional meeting, then having your foot up is just disrespectful, but I imagine that goes for most countries.

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  • Yah, nvm.
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    Alright, so you don’t acknowledge the problem, still fits the definition.

    I'd hate for our discussion to be about semantics, but I'm saying that we don't believe in the problem. If I'd say "Hey, regarding the vampire situation, you have your head in the sand, because you won't acknowledge the problem", it wouldn't be an accurate statement, or correct usage of the phrase.

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    unwilling to recognize or acknowledge a problem or situation

    I'm not saying that we are unwilling to recognize a problem, the problem itself is greatly exaggerated, or even non-existent.

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    Here's what student loan borrowers can do now to avoid struggling when payments resume
    Yah, nvm.
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    I'm almost the same as OP, but I wouldn't call it "head in the sand". For the past few years, the media has been exaggerating everything and creating mass hysteria. If you follow the news closely, you'll think the world is about to end: Wars, economical depressions, climate changes, new pandemics, etc..

    Stop following the news, and you won't notice a thing. Probably the price increases, but other than that, your life is the same.

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  • I'm talking about the Poneglyphs in Skypia, Alabasta, and Fish-Man Island for example. Like the one in FMI, we know its Joy Boy apologizing, but it would have been great if we had the full exact text.

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    Looking for good games for Android. By good, I mean a game with a story, no ads or in-app purchases. I'm okay with paying for it, but I'm looking for a good experience. The game should be story-based, as in it has an ending, not an infinite game. Any recommendations?

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    When you reach the point of dehumanizing an entire population, you should stop and think about the amount of shit the media has filled your head with.

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    Recap of the Lemmy XSS incident & steps for mitigation
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    Changing the JWT secret does this. So instead of a button, its a line of code, making it less likely to be done by mistake.

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    Reddit Was Fun MarcellusDrum 1y ago 100%
    Why make an app for Tildes instead of Lemmy?

    I mean the dev is obviously free to work on whatever he wants, but I've had a Tildes account for like 2 years now, and honestly it never got any traction. Lemmy on the other hand is getting a lot of users, and it is desperately missing a non-buggy app. Any specific reason?

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    Lemmy Support MarcellusDrum 1y ago 90%
    I made a reddit Megathread on /r/Lemmy about what Lemmy is and how to join iy
    https://www.reddit.com/r/Lemmy/comments/14h88gb/megathread_what_is_lemmy_and_how_to_join_it

    Feel free to share it with people, or suggest any edits for me to make.

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    How to block an instance as a user?

    When browsing All, I would like to block some instances, mainly those in a different language that just clutter my feed. Is that possible?

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    Hereditary (2018) Discussion Thread

    Spoilers are allowed. Whenever I finish watching a new movie, I like to go to Reddit and browse the discussion threads to see what people thought of it. From now on, I'll start a thread here if it doesn't already exist. What did you think of the movie? How did you interpret the ending? Feel free to discuss anything about the movie you like.

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    What do you think of The Matrix: Resurrections?

    No spoilers for Resurrections please, I've only watched the first 3 movies in the last couple of days. Yes, I know that I'm 20 years late to the party. I think the first movie is great, I hated the long action scenes in the second (Neo vs the Smith army got boring after a couple of minutes, and added no value), and mostly enjoyed the third, even though it didn't really feel like a Matrix movie. I've read that the fourth is terrible. Is that because it ruined people's nostalgia, or is it really that bad? I'm probably going to watch it either way, just like to hear your opinions.

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    Run It Yourself MarcellusDrum 3y ago 100%
    Running Nextcloud on a Raspberry Pi without internet

    Would self-hosting a Nextcloud instance locally without an internet connection be viable? Use case: Around 5 people need to share files over the network, collaborate on Office documents in real-time, use GitLab, and a To-do/Task management tool. Beyond the initial setup, does any of these requirements need an active Internet connection, or can we all connect to the Raspberry Pi server via Ethernet?

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